This obviously makes the parents more worried. Its got a daughter to worry raped, the men worry sodomized. Finally, they perform a variety of ways to protect their baby. From start to closely supervise their children go to any, friends with whom, to limit play time, do not do other activities outside of school, if it's too late to go home for a while will be scrambling / panic, or playing too long.
But there is also the opinion to provide sexual education from an early age in children. Especially at home and school, where children used to interact. For example, by means of a bath together with a child is often naked, like the opinion of an expert Parenting. With the hope that they can protect themselves when things happen that are not desired it.
It can not be denied, God created us to have such instincts interest in the opposite sex. Including children. Only, they have not been able to understand the upheavals that there is in him. At best, only be able to distinguish the extent to which women and which men, or it could also tell which is pretty / handsome face and mediocre / not interesting, so tend to prefer to play with a friend who pretty / handsome than his earlier considered less interesting. Not until the sexual attraction, as is the case with adults. Because they are not yet sexually mature.
This instinct can arise when there are external stimuli, for example by looking at the opposite sex are pretty / handsome, or see images, photos through mass media such as newspapers, TV, internet, and so forth. Islam has taught how to fulfill this instinct, that is by getting married. It is only for adults or capable enough to get married. Then, what about the children? Of course, getting married is not the right solution.
Here, there are some tips that we can apply at home, is as follows:
1. If the child has reached the age of 2 years or had been weaned, his parents separated, gradually, until she wants to sleep alone in his room.
2. If you have a sibling, a good brother or sister, separate sleep. If forced to sleep together, familiarize children not to sleep in the same pillows and blankets. Because usually this is where the beginning of sexual deviation occurs in the future, such as sex with siblings (incest) and other irregularities.
3. Teach children early to be able to differentiate between public life and where life is special. Public life is somewhere that if we want to enter need not have permission first. Like the mosque, mosque, malls, markets, courts, and others. Being a special life is somewhere that if we want to enter must exist prior permission. There should not be forced to enter. Such as private homes, private cars, and so forth. At home, taught to ask permission when entering our room. And also entered his room. Especially in times genitalia, such as ba'da Noon, ba'da Isha, and Fajr ba'da.
4. Familiarize children to dress that covers the genitalia when out of the house. For male nakedness boundary of the navel to the knees, while women use Islamic headscarf, like the abaya and veil. Being when I'm at home, put the clothes that cover the nakedness, the extent of the navel and the knees are not shown. We as parents also give a good example, use decent clothes in front of the children. Let the children know the boundaries of the genitalia should be seen and not be seen when in the house and outside the house.
5. Do not accustomed to bathe together with their parents, let alone naked. Do not let it see our nakedness. Likewise with his brother. Make it a habit to be able to bathe themselves early on. So that the child has a high embarrassment when his private parts visible, although by us or siblings.
6. Educate our children with an Islamic association with the opposite sex. As not only allowed to play alone with the opposite sex, teach play with same-sex friends, not carelessly enter a friend of the opposite sex without being accompanied by us (mahram), do not travel without our permission, even if it wants to go, let alone more than 24 hours should there mahram. Not allowed bertabarruj (ornate) that can attract the opposite sex. As wear fragrances. So when he had entered the age of legal age, he was able to keep the interaction with the opposite sex.
7. Teach when the child has entered the age of legal age, in which women had their first menstrual period (usually around age 9-10 years), and men had a dream first (usually around the age of 15 years). Automatically he already has the legal burden, as well as adults. Since he had entered adulthood. One of them should really maintain relationships with the opposite sex.
9. Encourage the child to perform a variety of positive activities, such as reviewing the science of religion.
9. chose a good and conducive environment for child development. As a place to stay. If it does not, try to educate environment with Islamic customs. By way of fostering good relationships with neighbors, fostering a sense of mutual care, to edify each other, for the safety of all our children.
10. The school also chose a good and conducive for their development. So they have good friends too.
11. If the child has shown interest in the opposite sex, the opposite sex or there is a child who wants to approach us (usually have a teenager or adolescent Baligh), be a good friend to them. With willing to be a good listener. Move it to the other positive things. Such as learning, examines the science of religion, of association at school, and so forth. Explain to him that all would be no time.
12. Do not allow children to have a lot of free time which makes a lot of daydreaming, fantasizing, or let him watch too long, limit the use of gadgets, which can make it passive. Strive for us to learn the gadget (do not clueless), in order to control the child. If you can close all the access that allows the child to see things that are not worth seeing.
Thus the tips that we can apply at home. If all of us apply earnestly, God willing, this problem can be resolved. Here's Largest PR we as parents, especially the mother, first and foremost as madrasas for their children. So, be a wise old man and intelligent.
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